Monday, January 22, 2007

Cal Poly Sucks

So, can I say that? I graduated from there, and my husband hopes to graduate from there. Some day. It should be this December, but maybe not. He had a serious run-in with a professor today. My very non-confrontative husband. A little tactless, maybe. Okay, definitely. Anyway, basically this professor said that my husband has "slipped through the cracks" to have gotten to where he is. My A and B student husband. Thats right, all those other professors for the last four years were awarding him above standard grades when he didn't even deserve to pass. I don't think so. AND he told him that because he doesn't stay all night and work on his projects he has a poor work ethic. Somebody didn't tell this guy that work ethic involves working during the time you are expected to work, not staying all night because you screwed around during your work time. So, apparently, all those employers are looking for people to pay overtime and DOUBLE time all night long instead of efficient, hard working employees who get their work done in a reasonable amount of time. I see. Maybe my husband isn't ready for the real world. OH! Thats right, he is in the real world! He has a real job, where he goes to work and works hard all day. Where his boss gives him $600 bonuses for his work ethic. So, his teacher has threatened to fail him (mind you this is week three, and only one assignment turned in). Which would put his graduation back 6 months.
So, tomorrow my husband will go in and beg another teacher to take him on for this quarter. I don't believe there is any way he will get a fair grade from this instructor. And have a little chit-chat with the dean (at his professor's request, who has already gone to speak with him). I wish I could go in for him. I am much more the outspoken one.
Anyway. I have a cold, which sucks, if you ask me. Not a bad one, but one all the same. I had a nice walk today with a couple of girlfriends, to Jamba Juice. It was a beautiful day. My 11 mo old is up and around, walking. My 3 yo is defiant. That is all I can say about her right now. Well, I guess I shouldn't be so negative. She is sweet, funny, capable, and helpful (when she wants to be). She is loving, cuddly and engaging. But, man, can she ever be a pill. As only three can, I suppose.
Well, I'm off to bed. I sure hope tomorrow works out. We have a lot riding on it.

Saturday, January 20, 2007


Time flies so quickly that tomorrow is always about a month away. That somehow thirty days fits into what I feel should be only one day.
So, basically my SIL told me that she doesn't like me. That I am two faced and insincere. That everything my husband has done wrong in the last seven years is my fault. It really made me upset. I knew she and I weren't friends, but I didn't realize that she straight doesn't like me, never has, and really doesn't know me. That I wouldn't like me, either, if I was the person she thinks I am. And how do I change that? Any time I am nice she thinks I am being insincere. It is quite paralyzing.
So, I talked to a member of our Bishopric, and got some good advice. We have been back up to their house a few times, and it has gone fine. I'm sure I will never feel the same, but I am thankful to have been able to find the courage to persevere, and attempt to continue the relationship. Relationships with my husband's family have never been easy.
What else is new? Both my girls are back in Parent Participation class. I am reading the Da Vinci Code (again). Gymnastics, switching off with other parents for childcare. Trying to stay healthy in cold and flu season. I am having some meloncholy lately. I have had that classic feeling that I am boring. That when I call people, mostly my husband, all I have to talk about are dishes and the color of poop, etc. I don't know what to do about it. I am happy being a stay-at-home mother, I certainly don't want to go back to work, but I want to be interesting. Speaking of work, the new quarter does bring me work. I am back at a local elementary school providing childcare for an ESL class. All my kids from last quarter are gone, and I have a 14mo old, a 2 1/2 yr old, 5 yr old and a 10 yr old. Much more crazy. My husband is building a fence, talking about what to do after he graduates. It may mean a move for us, if only temporarily. We'll see. He graduates next December. I have made a promise to my Uncle to have the house in order by then. It is a tall order.
My best friend is coming out for a week. Her sister is getting married. I am really looking forward to seeing her, as always. It is also a motivator to getting the house cleaned some. Plan my youngest's first birthday party.
Well, I have a Girl Scout activity in 30 minutes, so I'd better go. We are doing some work at the Dallidet Adobe as a service project.
Hopefully less days will disappear before I manage to get back on...:)